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Say no to marriage

2011-11-25T12:51:00.000-08:00

Marriage is a big dream for me. But when some proposals reached the triangle, then i used to skip it. What could be the reasons?

It may be due to fear of Loneliness and insecurity. May be the belief that a relationship is not a solution to my problems, guilt feelings of my past, and a hatred towards men.

Most girls are facing these issues which are really complicated if there is no proper counselling given on time. I gave counselling to twenty girls about how to develop a positive attitude towards marriage.

The sad part is that, most of them came back to me after marriage and said, they are big failures in finding those positive side of marriage. Hearing all these, I am still unmarried.

HOW TO SUPPRESS PEDOPHILIA DESIRE

2011-08-25T01:10:00.000-07:00

In almost all countries, Pedophile cases are considerably increasing. It require high level counselling to reduce this psychological disorder. Pedophilia (or paedophilia) is defined as a psychiatric disorder in adults or late adolescents (persons age 16 or older) typically characterized by a primary or exclusive sexual interest in prepubescent children, generally age 13 years or younger. This psychological disorder of pedophilia is mostly documented in men, and there are some cases in which women also exhibit this disorder. Pedophilia may be correlated with several different neurological abnormalities, and often co-exists with other personality disorders and psychological pathologies.

How to control pedophilia desire

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Many treatments are available that are aimed at reducing or preventing the expression of pedophilic behavior, reducing the prevalence of child abuse.

Self Control

The best medicine for controlling pedophilia is identifying it by the subject itself as a crime according to law or prohibited in religious texts. Finding alternative for sexual desire accomplishment is highly advocated. Reading moral texts, doing meditation and controlling sexual desire is ideal that will work as the best option for controlling pedophilia.

Without proper co-operation from the pedophile, it is impossible to control this disorder.

Chemical Castration.

Medications are used to lower sex drive in pedophiles by interfering with the activity of testosterone, such as with Depo-Provera (medroxyprogesterone acetate), Androcur (cyproterone acetate), and Lupron (leuprolide acetate).

Gonadotropin-releasing hormone analogues, which last longer and have fewer side-effects, are also effective in reducing libido and may be used.

Psychopathia Sexualis

2011-08-25T00:37:00.000-07:00

Dr. Richard von Krafft-Ebing wrote Psychopathia Sexualis: eine Klinisch-Forensische Studie (Sexual Psychopathy: a Clinical-Forensic Study, 1886) as a forensic reference book for physicians and judges. Sexual Psychopathy was one of the first books about sexual practices that studied homosexuality; the clitoral orgasm and jouissance, the sexual pleasure of the woman; and proposed consideration of the mental-state of sexual criminals in the legal judgement of their actions. As such, it was the medico–legal textual authority on psychosexual diversity, and a most influential human sexuality book until Sigmund Freud.

The first edition of Psychopathia Sexualis (1886) presents four categories of "cerebral neuroses":

paradoxia — Sexual desire at the wrong time of life
anesthesia — Insufficient sexual desire
hyperesthesia — Excessive sexual desire
paraesthesia — Sexual desire for the wrong goal, e.g. "contrary sexual desire" homosexuality, sexual fetishism, sadism, masochism, paedophilia.

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Developing Trust in Relationships

2011-08-11T14:33:00.000-07:00

The single most important factor in any type of successful relationship between any two people is trust. People can have professional or business relationships where they don't trust each other but those relationships are for convenience only and are not personally satisfying to either party. The man or woman who wants a successful personal relationship has to begin with trust. Trust is first and foremost even in dysfunctional relationships.If you look at the dynamics of a street gang you will see that the thing paramount among the gang members is that they trust each other.

The purpose for banding together is for survival. For the individual member to survive he has to pledge his allegiance to the organization. He can then trust the rest of the members to protect him and the gang can depend on him to carry out their orders and promote its agenda. Every person on this earth wants to have someone that they can trust. Most problems with relationships are caused by a breech of trust.

Trust seems to be a thing which is dying in our present society. People today want instant gratification in this information age and trust or being trustworthy becomes the first victim. Big businesses as a practice have full time legal advisors. They don't necessarily do things because they are morally right but they do what is most expedient for the business. If there's a legal loophole they will take that loophole and make it work for them. This is the order of the day now. Real trust is the knowledge that you can freely communicate with another without having to worry that they will use that communication to take advantage of you. Trust is knowing without a doubt that the other person means what they say and will uphold their words with deeds as much as possible.Now we all have a different picture of trust which is based on our own psyche. The thing which may be unacceptable to one person is totally fine to the next. Part of our attitude comes from the experiences that we have had in life. If a person has been severely betrayed in life he or she will have a harder time learning or being able to trust other people. Many times we will damage our own relationships with other people by not trusting them because of our past experiences.

Trust is a precious gift which once lost is very difficult to regain. When we trust others we make ourselves vulnerable to them because they know things that they can use to hurt us if their intentions are not honorable. Once trust has been betrayed we are reluctant to make ourselves vulnerable again.Some of the factors which affect our ability to trust others can be listed. The one which is probably the most important is the type environment that we grew up in. If a person grew up in a home where there was no trust exhibited by parents or siblings they learn not to trust others or to be trustworthy themselves. This personality sees the world through different eyes than the average person. He or she sees life only as a game to be played for their own satisfaction. This person will never regard the trust of others.The person who is trusting by nature and has a habit of giving of themselves or making themselves vulnerable is another category of affected trust. Many good people will take advantage of this person because we are all self centered and want what we feel serves our own intrest. This person may have been the victim of failed relationships because of this and may find themselves locked in a cycle which is almost impossible to break out of. In order to build or rebuild trust you must start out with small steps or situations.

You can look at them as bricks in the building block of your relationship. Each brick must be put securely in place in order to build a secure structure. This takes time and can all be lost if trust if violated. Don't take the trust of other people for granted. Once you have gained the trust of another person be careful not to violate their good will. People know that you are not superman and we sometimes may have the best intentions in the world but for whatever reason can't follow through. People generally understand this. A few small transgressions won't do harm to your relationship but don't take that for granted. The Good Life

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Human Behavior Psychology

2011-08-11T14:28:00.000-07:00

Human behavior psychology is one of the theories of learning based upon the central idea that all human behaviors are attained through conditioning. This is also known as behaviorism. Conditioning happens through the interaction of human beings with the environment. According to human behavior psychology,human behavior can be studied in a systematic, methodical, recognizable and observable manner with no deliberation of internal mental states.

The two major types of conditioning are:

Classical conditioning:A common method applied in behavioral training in which a response is paired with a naturally occurring stimulus. Further, a previously neutral stimulus is paired with the naturally occurring stimulus. Eventually, the previously occurring neutral stimulus comes to suggest the response in the absence of the naturally occurring stimulus. The two elements are then known as the conditioned response and the conditioned stimulus.Operant conditioning:This is another frequent method of learning that takes place through punishments and rewards for human behavior. During operant conditioning, an association is made between a human behavior and immediately a consequence for that behavior. This is also identified as instrumental conditioning.Major Thinkers in Human behavior psychology-

John B. Watson is frequently referred to as the "father of behaviorism."
Clark L. Hull sought to explain learning and motivation by scientific laws of behavior.
Edward L. Thorndike worked on animal behavior and the learning process for a major part of his life.
Ivan Pavlov was primarily interested in physiology, but his discovery of conditional reflexes heavily influenced the behaviorist movement.
B. F. Skinner's research on operant conditioning made him one of the leaders of behaviorism.

Strengths of human behavior psychology/Behaviorism

Human behavior psychology is based upon observable and noticeable behaviors, thus easier to quantify, collect empirical data and information while conducting research.
Behavioral intervention, token economies, and discrete trial training are some of the effective remedial techniques which are all rooted intensively in human behavior psychology, also commonly known as behaviorism. These techniques are very helpful in changing maladaptive, detrimental or harmful behaviors in both children and adults.

Criticisms of human behavior psychology/behaviorism

Many detractors point out that human behavior psychology or behaviorism is an exclusively one-dimensional approach to human behavior and thus such human behavioral theories do not account for free will and internal influences such as moods, thoughts, feelings, etc.
Behaviorism or human behavior psychology does not account for further types of learning, in particular learning that occurs lacking the use of reinforcements. Also individuals are able to adapt their human behavior when new information is brought in, even if a previous behavior pattern has been established over a period of time through reinforcement.

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Domestic Violence against Women and Children

2011-08-11T14:20:00.000-07:00

by Daniel H. Swerdlow-Freed, Ph.D.(Daniel H. Swerdlow-Freed, Ph.D. is a Licensed Psychologist.

Contact information is available at the end of this article.)

Domestic violence against women and children is a serious societal concern. Researchers have estimated that each year more than 10% of American women are the victims of domestic violence, and that three million American children are exposed to domestic violence. Research has shown that these children are also at risk of being battered by their abusive parent, and that boys who witness domestic violence are more likely to batter their own partners in adulthood.

Research and clinical experience have shown that batterers often display characteristics and attitudes marked by control, manipulation, a sense of entitlement, extreme selfishness, jealousy, a propensity to blame others, and a penchant for denying or minimizing the seriousness of their behavior and its consequences. Batterers tend to be unreliable partners in parenting and frequently hold unrealistic ideas of what constitutes appropriate parenting. In addition, they tend to be harshly critical of the other parent's weaknesses and shortcomings, while blind to their own deficiencies and limitations.

Some batterers take a lax or permissive approach to child rearing and leave this function to their spouse. Even though they disengage from the everyday demands of parenting, many batterers do not withhold judgment of the other parent's competence, and harshly criticize the other parent for any perceived shortcoming, regardless of how small or insignificant it may be. Other batterers display a harsh, rigid and authoritarian discipline style where they expect their spouse and children to immediately comply with their rules and meet their demands without question. Such parents typically have an inflated sense of their competence as parents and do not tolerate feedback that does not support this distorted image, or challenges their authority.

Parents who physically abuse their spouses provide very poor role models for children. Their behavior teaches that violence and aggression are legitimate methods to deal with conflict or get one's needs met. Moreover, battering a spouse undermines that parent's authority and teaches children that it is permissible to mistreat and disrespect a parent.

When a spouse is repeatedly physically abused, it is inevitable that the children will be exposed to this brutality, and its aftermath. Even when children do not directly witness violence or overhear it, they see its effects on their battered parent and are usually frightened by its occurrence and frustrated over their inability to do anything about it. The ability of an abused parent to provide nurturing, supervision and guidance is often severely compromised, and this lack of support can be quite harmful to children. It should also be noted that men who batter their wives are more likely than non-batterers to physically abuse their children as well, and, the risk of abuse to children increases with the severity and frequency of violence toward the mother.

Parents who batter their children are often minimally involved in their children's lives and provide minimal nurturing compared to parents who do not physically abuse their children. Because of their rigidity and inflexibility, child-batterers frequently refuse to compromise on day-to-day issues or to subordinate their own immediate desires in order to satisfy the wants or needs of their children. Furthermore, parents who batter often reveal a striking lack of knowledge and understanding of their children, and have no genuine comprehension of the negative effects of their behavior on their children's physical health and emotional well-being.

Research has shown that exposure to domestic violence is extremely harmful and has adverse effects on a child's normal development. Children who have been exposed to domestic violence are often more aggressive toward peers and display more behavior problems than children who have not. In addition, such children are less socially active, more worried about safety issues, and have more mental health problems, including higher rates of hyperactivity, anxiety, depression, and withdrawal, along with lower levels of academic achievement.

Boys who witness their father physically abuse their mother are at increased risk to abuse their girlfriends in adolescence and their partners in adulthood. Girls who witness domestic violence often believe that male violence is acceptable and they fail to take adequate steps to protect themselves when their boyfriends and husbands turn violent, blaming themselves for creating the situation which generates violence. They also tend to tolerate mean, demeaning and disrespectful behavior from boyfriends and husbands because they believe it is normal for males to act this way. Research has shown that girls who grow up in homes where domestic violence is prevalent are at increase risk to become the victim of abuse in adulthood.

This brief overview indicates the importance of teaching children that physical abuse, sexual abuse and other forms of violence are not to be tolerated, and that police, social service agencies and health professionals should be notified whenever there is any evidence that abuse has occurred.

Contact Information:

Daniel H. Swerdlow-Freed, Ph.D. is a Licensed Psychologist in Michigan with an office in Farmington Hills, MI. For more information, you may contact him at:

30600 Northwestern Highway, Suite 210Farmington Hills, Michigan 483341

(248) 539-7777

Dr. Swerdlow-Freed maintains a website with additional practice information. You may link directly to his website at: http://drswerdlow-freed.com

What Does A Sports Psychology Consultant Do

2011-08-11T14:14:00.000-07:00

An Overview Of An Exciting, Valuable Field, By

Bill Cole, MS, MAThe Mental Game Coach™

Silicon Valley, California

Sports psychology consultants are fast becoming far more accepted and utilized as a valuable competitive edge among athletes and coaches. A sports psychology consultant can be your secret weapon in your mental training arsenal. They can help you dramatically improve your learning, training and performance.

This article gives you a broad overview of the world of sports psychology consultants. You will learn who uses sports psychology consultants, how they operate, and what they can do for you.

I was fortunate to be the first person in the world to earn an undergraduate degree in sports psychology. I did this in 1978 at the State University of New York at Buffalo. I later earned two graduate degrees in related areas, and I have been working in the field as a sports psychology consultant for over 30 years, in over 55 sports. I have coached thousands of elite performers, seven national champions, and world champions. Recently, one of my clients, Miriam Nakamoto, won her fourth world kickboxing championship, and became the first U.S. woman in history to hold the WBC Muay Thai World title.

Who Uses Sports Psychology Consultants?

Sports psychology is no longer a well-kept secret. It seems everyone in sports uses this mind coach, at the very minimum, to not fall behind their competitors. Indeed, working with a sports psychology consultant can give you the winning edge. Virtually every college, university, national team, Olympic team, and pro team has a sports psychology consultant on staff. Look at the representation of sports psychology consultants being utilized across the entire range of sports:

Major league professional sports teams.
Minor league professional sports teams.
Individual professional athletes in every sport.
Olympic teams in every sport.
National coaching associations.
National teams in every sport.
University and college athletic departments.
University and college athletic teams.
Individual college athletes in every sport.
Coaches in every sport.
Parents in every sport.
Individual recreational athletes in every sport.

High Profile Championship Teams Who Use Sports Psychology Consultants

The top teams in sports regularly use sports psychology consultants to maintain the sharp edge of focus, determination and a winning mind set. Here are five well-known superstar teams that have sports psychology consultants on their coaching staffs:

Baseball World Series Champions New York Yankees
Basketball NBA World Champions San Antonio Spurs
NFL Football Superbowl Champions Dallas Cowboys
NCAA National Football Champions University of Nebraska
Baseball College World Series Champions Stanford University.

Which Sports Most Often Use Sports Psychology Consultants?

This is difficult to determine exactly, but based on the sports psychology literature, and other evidence, it is probably safe to say that golf is #1 and tennis is #2. There are no other sports that come close to these two in the volume of books and articles that are written on the mental game each year. Indeed, top pro golf stars like Ernie Els, Tiger Woods, Annika Sorenstam, Mark O'Meara, Greg Norman, David Duval, Vijay Singh and Jack Nicklaus all have used, or are currently using sports psychology consultants on their coaching teams.

Look at some of the big names in pro golf who have used sports psychology consultants. It's estimated that well over 300 of the pro game's players regularly use sports psychology consultants:

Steve Elkington
Denis Watson
Kirk Triplett
Dave Stockton
Lee Janzen
Cameron Beckman
Brandie Burton
Stephen Ames
Chip Beck
Davis Love III
Nick Price
Brad Faxon
John Daly
Brian Barnes
Christian Cevaer
Hollis Stacy
Beth Daniel
Woody Austin
Retief Goosen
Padraig Harrington
Michael Campbell
Frank Lickliter II
Fred Funk
E.J. Pfister
Kirk Triplett
Scott McCarron
Payne Stewart
Corey Pavin

Ben Crenshaw
Bob Estes
Donna Andrews
Justin Leonard
Hank Kuehne
Michelle McCann
Brandi Burton
Mark McCumber
Rachael Teske
Ju-Yun Kim
Nancy Scranton
Bill Glasson
Brian Gay
Charles Howell III
Ty Tryon
Luke Donald
Jim Carter
Frank Nobilo
David Morland IV
John Cook
David Frost
Mike Grob
David Ogrin
Matt Weibring
Gary Nicklaus
Billy Andrade
Stewart Cink

Do these 55 golf pros convince you that sports psychology is a must to get the mental edge? They play golf for a living and want every edge possible. They are already strong mentally, but want to continue to improve and so they seek the services of sports psychology consultants.

Let's take a look at how a sports psychology consultant can help you as an athlete, as a parent of an athlete, or as a coach. Here are seven areas in which a sports psychology consultant works, and how they apply this knowledge to sports learning and performance.

1. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Assess Your Mental Strengths And Weaknesses As An Athlete: You need to know where you stand, and what you need to do to improve your mental approach to your sports.

2. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Work Better With Your Support Staff: You need solid working relationships with the key people who support you in your sports. That would be your parents, coaches, trainers, teammates and anyone else who can help you. A sports psychology consultant helps you forge these important relationships.

3. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Learn More From Your Coaches: You need to know your learning style and needs, and how to communicate that to your coach, so you can work better as a team.

4. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps Guide You In Your Career: There are many challenges and potential wrong turns in a sports career. Your sports psychology consultant helps you create a vision for success, and to execute that master plan.

5. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Learn Mental Readiness: You must know how to prepare mentally and emotionally in your sports. A sports psychology consultant helps you devise a customized mental readiness plan for lessons, practices and competitions.

6. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Enter The Zone: The zone is the master key to your performance success. A sports psychology consultant shows you how to get there more often.

7. A Sports Psychology Consultant Helps You Learn How To Motivate Yourself: You need a combination of intrinsic motivation and extrinsic motivation. A sports psychology consultant helps you achieve this delicate blend.

What Happens In A Sports Psychology Consulting Session?

Sports psychology consulting is a process, a learning experience. It's an opportunity to grow as an athlete and as a person. It's an enlightening growth process, and a very interesting one. You will learn more about yourself as an athlete, and as a person.

It's a special time that is all yours, for you to use any way that you see fit. It's your own personal mental training class and consulting session. It's a chance to receive personalized teaching from an expert in the mental game. It's a custom coaching class that focuses on your mind.

Here is what takes place during a sports psychology consulting session. This list demystifies the sports psychology coaching process and gives you confidence that your sports psychology consultant has your best interests and well-being in mind at all times. In the sports psychology coaching session you will be able to:
1. Discuss any performance issues that trouble you or concern you.
2. Talk about any emotional obstacles holding you back.
3. Explore any technical issues that affect your mental game.
4. Engage in creative exploration of how to resolve these issues.
5. Understand the mind-body connection and how to make it work for you.
6. Gain additional perspectives on your sports experiences and challenges.
7. Feel deeply listened to and respected as you discuss your problems.
8. Assess your mental strengths and weaknesses.
9. Devise a mental training plan to help you overcome mental weaknesses.
10. Discover learning experiences and exercises to help you become self aware.
11. Share the kind of things and ask the kind of questions you would normally not be able to share with your friends, parents or coaches.
12. Grow from being assigned mental training homework.
13. Be assessed on a variety of mental measures to increase your awareness.
14. Receive assistance in making better decisions about your issues.
15. Benefit from a viewpoint other than your own.
16. Make action plans to bring your goals to reality.
17. Learn a wide variety of mental skills.
18. See charts and illustrations to help you understand key concepts.
19. Learn self-regulation skills for emotional, mental and physical control.
20. Ask any questions you may have about your sports experiences.
21. Discuss sensitive issues in a safe, confidential environment.
22. Gain the perspective from someone who has been a successful athlete, coach and mental trainer.
23. Set up weekly and monthly structures that help you stay accountable to your goals and dreams.
24. Replace negative thought patterns with positive ones.
25. Help you realize higher levels of confidence.
26. Set goals that help you learn faster, perform better and enjoy yourself more.
27. Familiarize yourself with the zone and be able to enter it more often.
28. Navigate the sometimes turbulent waters of change.
29. Experience high quality communication skills.
30. Rehearse mental skills.
31. Have a dialogue that helps you think and solve your own problems.
32. Hear advice, suggestions and counsel.
33. Receive ongoing support and feedback.

Now that you know more about how a sports psychology consultant works, you may want to seek more information and perspective from these helpful links in sports psychology:

Association for Applied Sport Psychology (AASP)http://appliedsportpsych.org/

The International Society of Sport Psychology (ISSP)http://www.issponline.org/

The European Federation of Sport Psychology (FEPSAC)http://www.fepsac.com/

The North American Society for the Psychology of Sport and Physical Activityhttp://www.naspspa.org/

International Society for Sports Psychiatry (ISSP)http://www.theissp.com/

Directory of Graduate Programs in Applied Sport Psychologyhttp://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1885693109/atheltinsightheo

If you are an athlete, coach or parent wishing to improve any of the areas discussed in this article you need a comprehensive overview of your mental abilities with an assessment instrument that identifies your complete mental strengths and weaknesses. Here is a free, easy-to-take 65-item sport psychology assessment tool you can score right on the spot. This assessment gives you a quick snapshot of your strengths and weaknesses in your mental game. You can use this as a guide in creating your own mental training program, or as the basis for a program you undertake with Bill Cole, MS, MAto improve your mental game. This assessment would be an excellent first step to help you get the big picture about your mental game.

If you are a coach who desires training and certification as a mental game coach, you may be interested in the training program offered by the International Mental Game Coaching Association. The IMGCA certifies qualified individuals at four levels as Certified Mental Game Practitioners.

Sports psychology consultants can help coaches, athletes or parents in improving learning, training and performance. In the competitive arena of sports, you want every advantage you can get. The sports psychology consultant can be one of your most trusted advisors, and a key member of your success team.

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Bill Cole, MS, MA, a leading authority on sports psychology, peak performance, mental toughness and coaching, is founder and CEO of William B. Cole Consultants, a consulting firm that helps sports teams and individuals achieve more success. He is also the Founder and President of the International Mental Game Coaching Association, an organization dedicated to advancing the research, development, professionalism and growth of mental game coaching worldwide. He is a multiple Hall-Of-Fame honoree as an athlete, coach and school alumnus, an award-winning scholar-athlete, published author of books and articles, and has coached at the highest levels of major-league pro sports and big-time college athletics.

Sports Psychology Coaching website.

Using Sex Appeal

2011-01-16T10:56:00.000-08:00

Article Summary: Your sex appeal can be used to get someone into your life that you want, and charm other people into helping you out in life. Sex appeal is a valuable tool in life as it not only wins you sexual relationships but also the attraction of everyone in your life, because you are such a charming person.

We've all got sex appeal inside us whether we know it or not. And we can use it to our advantage to help us win over the opposite sex for relationships and other things we want. Even someone who has tons of sex appeal can win over the same gender with it. Sexual appeal is an instinctual desire that we can't ignore. If we find some worthy of our attention we will give it. So how can you use your sex appeal to your advantage? Well first you have to know where it is!

The first part of sex appeal is your looks. We get caught up thinking that the sexiest people look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, but the truth is that everyone is attracted to different looks. This means that no matter what you look like there is someone out there who will find you attractive! So with that said you may think that only a few people will be charmed by your sex appeal because you are their type but that's not always the case as your appeal goes much deeper than that.

As long as you are clean-cut and take care of yourself you will be doing all you can for your looks, and there is not much more you can do about the physical aspect of yourself. Besides, sex appeal has more to do with personal qualities than looks.

Your personal qualities are the biggest part of your charm. Confidence in your abilities to please the opposite sex in and out of bed is what other people will notice right away. Confidence in the way you talk, walk, and everything you say is the biggest trait you can have to sway people with your sex appeal. You know how there are some people who are just hard to resist? Those people have confidence in themselves and know they have what it takes to make people like them. Their confidence oozes out of them.

Real confidence in yourself also brings about happiness in your life because you feel good about yourself. This makes you a joy to be around which of course is another huge quality that screams sex appeal. So don't pretend to be confident as that will not come across as sexy and real, but instead find your real confidence and feel good about yourself naturally, and you will find that it will work wonders.

Once you have everything going for you, you will be able to pick up the opposite sex without a problem. You will be able to sway the opposite sex, and your own sex, into helping you achieve things you want in life. Your charm will win them over almost every time and you will find that people are willing to break the rules a little just to make your life easier.

People will be naturally attracted and interested in you as a person, and that is good for all kinds of relationships, not just sexual relationships. Use your sex appeal to make your life better and make other people feel good about themselves and that will be the biggest payoff you can get.

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Bellaisa Filippis
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A CASE OF GIRL ADDICTED TO CHAT

2010-10-30T11:22:00.000-07:00

A case was brought into our counselling clinic by one of the famous Orthopaedic Surgeon in Town. The girl is a distant relative of him and the parents were complaining about lack of concentration in studies. We three psychology students had several sessions to explore her problem in detail. Our idea was quite simple. She just crossed 15 years and one of us had to make a deep friendship with her to find the ways to identify her problem. I was told by my superior to be with her off school time. I spent some time with her, without showing that I am a clinical psychology student.

The matter went quite interestingly and first week was quite hope less for me.

I failed to find any boyfriend linking to her, or any sort of deviations in her personal life. Once she go to sleep, I come back to my room and spent hours to identify any clue from her side.

The second week I noticed that her eyes got black colour around, which may probably due to lack of sleep. When I discussed about this with her, then she shout back to me saying that she is having enough sleep. Now, my doubt went to her personal laptop, which she didn't opened in front of me during last few days. When she was in bath room, I opened it and installed a typing detector software. The typing detecting software gave a bundle of details to my email, every week , which clearly showed that she have some relation with a guy who is not in her age, sex and country. He was a computer professional, aged 35 from united states and was chatting with her for a long time. When everybody sleep, that time they chat with each other,and share everything.

They pretend as husband and wife, married through internet. Their cam is active till both of get sufficient pleasure. the duration of chat is almost one hour, depending upon her self pleasure time.

While going through those chatting details, I have found another shocking truth that, she keep another two or three guys at the same time for the chat game. If her friend exit quickly she move to other guys with open cam. The second shock came to me, when I read the lines that she was typing. The way she treats the male organs was quite unexpected. She got such an experience in chat that, most boys exit the chat within the first five or ten minutes after getting pleasured out.

How we saved her from Chat addiction?

The real cause for such a chat addiction was her loneliness. Parents were busy with their job and she was struggling to find a way out of her loneliness. Chatting was quite easy for her to make friends, and one of them played the concept of "INTERNET MARRIAGE" with her. More details were revealed in her second session of hypnotism.

We did one counselling to her parents. Later a friendly session for her too. Three months later, we got an email from her that she stopped chatting with others completely. Her voice was very bright and she felt much comfort with the support from her parents.

NATURAL BREAST ENHANCEMENT: SAFE METHODS FOR LARGER BREASTS

2010-08-19T01:46:00.000-07:00

During my fashion and modelling career, I faced big issues with the size of my breasts. As you know, the industry likes the one with minimal sizes. They hate unusally bigger ones. Before I was signing my 6 months contract with one of the major fashion school in the Town, I was forced to attend a screening test. This test was quite embarassing for me. CEO of the Front Team, inspected the size with hands more than one time and inofmed me that it is over sized. Later I was given a chance to reduce the size. Most of the women think about enlarging the size and I was thinking how to reverse it. Any way I managed to do a liposuction surgery and reduced the size according to their requirement.

Here is a Guest Post by Autor: Roselee.Stehle about safe ways to improve the size:

Have you ever thought about bigger breasts but are afraid of surgery and breast implants? Now there are safer methods for natural breast enhancement such as creams, pills, and pumps. How do these breast enhancers work? Today we will review the top options for natural breast enhancement.

Breast Enhancement Creams

The principle behind breast enhancement creams is that they mimic estrogen in the body to promote additional breast tissue. The creams contain plant based ingredients which are similar to estrogen and when applied to breasts stimulate estrogen receptors in mammary glands to produce more breast tissue.

Breast enhancement creams can also help to firm and lift breasts. Familiar skin care ingredients such as aloe vera, almond oil and safflower oil are usually found in breast enlargement creams to smooth and tighten skin. However, breast enhancement creams are not meant to be used alone but with breast enhancement pills. By themselves, they do not deliver optimum results as a combination of pills and cream would.

Breast Enhancement Pills

Breast enhancement pills work similarly to breast enhancement creams in that they mimic estrogen in the body. The pills however are able to provide larger amounts of these estrogen-like compounds into the body and so provide better results. When the body receives these estrogen receptors it prompts mammary glands to create new breast tissue.

The great thing about the pills is that the ingredients are natural and plant based. Since there are not real estrogen hormones, your body will not have the side effects or imbalances that hormone replacements methods offer. Breast enhancement pills seem promising and studies have proven that there are over 70% effective.

Breast Pumps

Breast pumps are just that: a "pump." The way breast pumps work is simple. You apply the pump to breast and the pump encourages tissue expansion with its vacuum pressure. Over time, this leads to a slight but permanent increase in breast size. The draw backs of the pump is that it must be worn at least 12 hours a day, such as Brava, and offers only 1/4 to 1/2 cup increase in size.

Overall, the most promising of all natural breast enhancement methods are breast enlargement pills and creams. Studies have shown breast pills provide permanent breast size increase and the largest overall gains (as much as a 1.7 cup size increase). With all the dangers of breast implants, natural breast enhancement methods may be the best option today. If breast enlargement pills were more widely accepted and mainstream, it is very possible that many women would not feel the need to undergo costly, complex and dangerous breast implant surgery.

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What Women Want From Men

2010-02-25T03:19:00.000-08:00

What women want from men is usually a lot different than what they say they want. Every young girl, growing up, dreams of a white prince who will sweep her away in a moment, she will fall for him and they will live happily ever after. That prince must be nice, sweet, good looking all the things a man should have. But when it actually comes to attraction, even if you are the nicest man on the earth, good looking and doing every sweet thing you can think of, you will not be successful with women. Accept this as a fact. Women might think they know what they want in a guy, but most often it is quite the opposite.

Remember, women choose who they are attracted to their sub-consciousness that lets them know who is attractive and who is not. Erase everything you have heard from women about what kinds of men are attractive, because probably it is all wrong.

What women really want is a manly man. A real man who controls his own life, a man with passion for living his life, and a man that has fun in all different situations. Women are sub-consciously drawn to men who achieve their own life, know where they are going, are happy with their life and have very few insecurities. Just like men are drawn to pretty women.

I will be more specific, what women want from men is to take care of them emotionally and sexually. Emotions play a big role in female world. Everything that happens to them is conditioned by their emotions. If they dont like you, they will find logical reasons for that, if they do like you, they will find logical reasons for that, even if you are short, bald, fat and poor.

The best way to really find out what women want from men is to try it. Make yourself better, do what you want to do, get some hobbies, make some new friends, work extra hard on your job, start believing you are becoming a better person. Eventually, you will gain value in your own mind and women will see that. Make the best of yourself you can be, dont use tricks and techniques, because sooner or later she will find out you are not who you show others to be.

Donâ€™t try to be a prince, but do try to be the best yourself. What would be the happiest you like? What would you do, what kind of personality would you have, what would your social life be like, your finances¦ this is who you have to strive to be. Make a list of goals you think you can realistically achieve that will improve your life and just do it. Women love men who know what they want and go for it, whatever it is, be passionate and focused. A lot of men dont really know what they want from life and then they complain they dont attract women. If you dont have an interesting life, you yourself wont be interesting. Enjoy your life to the fullest with the woman you want. That is really all what women want from a man.

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An Ebook Review on 500 Love Making Tips and Secrets

2010-02-04T21:30:00.000-08:00

This is a Guest post by:

Nisa Matthews

"Do you feel like your lovemaking is getting a little stale?If you think your lovemaking has become a bit 'ordinary' or you just want to make it even better than it already is then read the 500 Lovemaking Tips and give your partner moments to remember."

Many couples face lots of stumbling blocks in their sex life. The main challenge remains as how to keep their love making red, hot, and steamy. The passion and newness of your love making is always unforgettable at the early stage of the relationship; however as time goes by, the initial spark subsides, it stays still, and fades. Well, when you try to figure out what will happen next ? It is really hard to get excited again.

So is "500 Love Making Tips and Secrets" by Michael Webb:- the ideal book to bring back the fire and to drive your lover wild in bed ? Well, my boyfriend and I love trying out a lot of ideas that were featured on this ebook, and indeed our love life has turned sizzling hot!

The book starts with a general description on the foundation of the art of lovemaking, with brief topics on various technique and tools on sexuality, and the importance of romance for lovemaking, better oral sex tips, and some juicy information on Kama Sutra. It also contains 16 illustrated lovemaking positions at the back of the book plus a guide. These are all butterfly touches. But, wait a minute, don't miss the boat; the main, main attraction on the whole book is the 500 plus tips that are so enticing.

The advantages features is that it allows you to flip a page and have 8 to 10 tips ready and handy and start to create some fun right away for couples. As you might aware, most men do not have the patience to read through dozens of long winded paragraphs. Everything is formatted "for your eyes only". I don't mean the Bond syndrome, "For your eyes only" is exclusively easy for your eyes to browse through .... This book is certainly an important asset for couples in terms of generating ideas when you're just about to make love at spur-of- the-moment an exhilarating event.

So, curious about the actual tips on your mind?

This is a compilation on the treasure chest of love making ideas. It has 539 tips in all. It ranges from tongue sex tips for both men and women, to games you can play to make your foreplay more fun and more erotic. It also contains tips to make your love making feel unique and better; ways like "coming out of the shower with just a towel and playing with your lover", getting all wet and comfortable with exposing your own body; and even with some places to make love that most people with limited imaginations can stretch beyond their wildest dreams. My boyfriend can say he has found more than enough that is appealing to him. It is recommended that you digest this book several times rather than to consume all in one shot. This book also does not carry any degrading, immoral or perverted ideas that other porn books seem to have.

So, what are you looking for? If your sex life is stagnant, and you got bored with repetitive positions, techniques with your lover, set a positive frame of mind and learn how to ignite fire into your love life, and become a match made in Heaven, this certainly has more than enough tips to carry your love life into variety of journeys.

To summarize the review : This book is the most comprehensive book of tips and ideas on improving love making. Besides covering most aspects of how-to enhancing techniques on passionate love and sex; on igniting the flame between lovebirds, it is truly a " jewel " for those who wants to transform their love lives into higher level of wholesome experiences.

ANOTHER CASE OF CHAT SEX ADDICTION

2010-01-08T01:15:00.000-08:00

While doing our project work, we got an interesting phone call from one of the major working women hostel . Matron want us to interfere into the personal life of one of her relative girl who is staying with Matron in that hostel. She is working as a call centre employee and her husband working out of India. Being highly relegious, she always afraid to go to Pubs and Night clubs which is often usual among call center employees.

She always wish to stay with her husband, but one the second month of her marriage he left India and able to visit her once in every 12 months. Loneliness was slowly creeping in her.

Once during her duty hours, she got a male voice calling from nearby town asking about some rare books in her shopping cart. She collected his phone number and that was the beginning of a rare relationship discussing about books at first. Both of them started chatting through Gmail. After coming from duty, she go directly to her Pc and mostly he will be there online, waiting for her. The funny thing is that they never used cam , as there was an agreement between them not to use Webcam, but only voice chat.

As per our analysis, the initiative was not from her side. He started discussing about some books like " Lady Chatterley's Lover". Such discussions slowly deviated into the commencement of sex chat. She felt much releif when she do this with that unknown guy. A sort of escapism from the loneliness.

In the beginning it was once a week, later it grew as an everyday chat. She close the door from inside and off clothes while chatting with him. He teach her different ways of getting pleasure out of chat. She became a regular purchaser of banana from the market.

At first, Matron was not watching such changes in her. But when she noticed it, a rash interrogation brought out all the secrets. The same time , our questinaire of Project , reached her hands through Event Management Company . Matron call the mobile number of mine immediately and I came to know about all these.

Now our question was there, how to escape her from this addiction of Chat, because closure of such a habit is very important before she visit her hubby next month.

WHAT WE DID ON HER?

WHETHER WE ARE SUCCESSFULL IN PREVENTING HER ADDICTION......wait for next post for all details

WHY PEOPLE LIKE FLIRTING CHAT IN INTERNET OR PHONE

2010-01-02T03:24:00.000-08:00

After my fashion show, I returned to my college to complete the project work. Dr Ayesha was upset on my absense for such a long term. Other three girls of my batch sat together and found a subject for the project work.

" PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND FLIRTING CHAT IN INTERNET OR PHONE"

We did this project work in a wide manner and decided to complete in three weeks. The modus operandi was quite simple, preparing 20 questions and giving it to targetted groups. Our target groups were

1. College Students ( Aged 19-24 )

2. School Students ( Aged 15-19 )

3. House wives ( Aged 25 to 45 )

4. Executives ( Aged 23 to 43 )

5. Old Men ( Aged above 50 ), those who are using internet atleast 1 hour a day.

We selected 20-50 persons from each group. It was not easy for us to arrange all these and so we demand the help of an "Event Management Company" to distribute the questions and to collect the answers back with extreme secrecy.

The results were very strange to believe.

80 % of college students out of which 60% male and 40% female students do sex chat
20 % of school students do sex chat and others don't know what is that
90% of Housewives do sex chat out of which only 40% below age 30 are doing sex chat in internet
25% of Executives do sex chat
95% of Old men do sex chat

Various techniques used by people to do sex chat was quite interesting. College students do by mobile, and internet. Girls like to do it mainly with their boy friends where as boys like to do with anyone mostly in night time. School students do such chat with colleagues. House wives depend only on internet, especially during afternoon time, when husband is away from home.Executives usually depend on phone, trying to culture it out in clients. Old men depends only in internet, 99% of them doesn't use voice chat.

We sorted out the reasons behind their fun in doing sex chat

Girls feel it safe and secure( No fear of pregnancy, and HIV)
Boys feel that will help to make more intimacy in relations
Some just do as flirting
Housewives, thinking about variety, and safety in chats
Executives for fun only
Old men trying to wipe out loneliness and sediment sexual feelings inside.

Our conclusion of the report was to BAN CHAT ROOMS IN INTERNET to avoid such an open vulgarism.

ABUSE IN FASHION SHOWS

2009-12-23T06:17:00.000-08:00

People keep on asking me whether there is sexual abuse in the world of modelling. I say yes because of some strange experiences of me and my friends. One more factor is that if anyone had to come up with good reputation , offers and money, had to bend little bit and suffer such crimes.

Anand Jon Alexander, known professionally as Anand Jon, was sentenced to 59 years in prison, having been found guilty, including sexual abuse. He was accused for raping models who worked for him, some of whom were only 14 at the time.

This usually happens in all fields. Either the producer or the photographer or director and sometimes even makeup man abuses models in different ways. I have seen a model running away from "Greenroom" when the makeup man tried to use his fingers in a different way.

Usually after Photoshoots, models had to share some time with the directors to ensure their next contract. Fashion designers usually catch models while trying new designs. All models had to be cloth less in front of them if you want to come up asa good models.

Just think when popular photo shoots are away from your own country. Its just making sure that the model will stay with the director or who ever want so.

So, girls, beware...MODELLING is not EVERYONES CUP OF TEA

HOT KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009

2009-12-22T06:35:00.000-08:00

Everyone is eagerly waiting for the release of KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2010. Big V one step ahead of all business magnets. Wait and see all hot models on the single platform or calendar known as Kingfisher swimsuit special calendar.

I hope that next year I can participate in the Calendar.

Its really nice to watch the making of KingfisherCalendar 2009 and I would like to share this with all my friends. Hopes that you enjoy this.

Photo Shoot by lead by Photographer Atul Kasbekar at Thailand's Six Senses

Famous Models in Kingfisher Calendar 2009

Katya Melnikova from Uganda
Mimi Blix from Norway
Moni Kangana Dutta from India
Tamara Moss from India

The making of Kingfisher calendar 2009 , view all these videos,

MAKING OF KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009 -PART ONE

MAKING OF KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009-PART TWO

MAKING OF KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009-PART THREE

MAKING OF KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009- PART FOUR

MAKING OF KINGFISHER CALENDAR 2009- PART FIVE

HOLY 69

2009-12-04T03:20:00.000-08:00

As a part of my next photo shoot, I went to one of major Fashion technologists in the city. The shoot was based on a Greek Godess, Aphrodite. I got a special makeup and costumes there. Most of the workers were women , so I too felt much freedom over the sets.

APHRODITE was the goddess of beauty, love and procreation. Her cult was very popular in ancient Greece with numerous shrines and temples throughout the land. Her main cult centres within Greece were the city of Korinthos (Corinth) on the Isthmus, and the island of Kythera off the coast of Lakedaimonia. Outside of Greece itself, the island of Kypros was famed for its Mystery cult dedicated to the goddess. Aphrodite was also worshipped with private rituals and prayers.

In classical sculpture Aphrodite was usually portrayed as a naked or partially disrobed women, often with arms drawn in a futile gesture of modesty. The first nude Aphrodite was sculpted by the artist Praxiteles in the C5th B.C. as a cult idol for the city-state of Knidos. It was received in its day with a certain controversy, however this style of statue quickly became the norm.

At the photo shoot, only Director and Cameraman were present. Most of the body was uncovered and felt much chillness in the air-conditioner.Mr X, the Director was much renowned person in the industry. A smart person with nice smile on his face. At the end of photo shoot, he came near me. He tried to figure out the sculpture of Aphrodite in my body. The cameraman went out quickly. I hear the door gets locked from outside. He too turned himself into the beautiful God of love and taught me Holy 69 . Now I got a surety of my next assignment.

FIRST MODELLING EXPERIENCE

2009-11-30T04:40:00.000-08:00

Most of young beauties try their luck in modelling and fashion ramps. Some gets a big boost, while others are not. I was not much interested in Fashion untill attending a discussion in College. The Fashion Agency had a Campus Recruitment and I too participated in that. More than 150 participants, finally I was placed in Rank Number 19. Something to cheer for a junior, isn't it?

The second stage was Career development workshop, where a lot of tips were shared by the Agency people and fellow models. My friend Namita was also with me, so felt everything like a small Picnic.

They had some photoshoots in the afternoon. The selected 20 girls were taken to individual rooms, where they will be absorbing some makeup powder even to stomach.

My breath began high when I saw an old guy waiting for me in the room. even though all rooms have half doors, but what is happening inside was totally hidden.

He gave me PreGown to wear and I wore it in the changing room, keeping all my clothes in the cupboard.

I felt shy, as some of my secret parts trying to show through the transparent parts of the gown.

The Old chap started his tour. His long fingers over my face and hair was quite okay. But things went bad when he start putting some shaping cream over one of my secret place.I was feeling different when his fingers squeezed the hills many times. I was shivering inside that what will happen, if those fingers slip to some deep valleys. ( even desired to get that ). He took almost one hour to finish. But by the time, my whole body was swimming in deep pleasure.

Photoshoot was excellent. One of my ideas about men was totally vanished. My beleif was that men will cry for mating when ever they see a girl in birthsuits.

But I saw, the photographer, director, and even lightboys, not looking to the modelling girls eventhough most of our dress were partly out of order.

They were concenterating to their job, a dedicated approach.

Mr K, so called GODFATHER of Models, came there greeted some of us and the important thing is that, he gave me his visiting card to call him up. Yes Iam going to Visit him next month. I willnot tell you the exact date of the apponitment.

But Guess it, its the day after his Paris tour.

HIDE AND SEEK

2009-11-30T03:00:00.000-08:00

I was studying in eighth standard at that time. During Holy, the most enjoying period of a schooler, some of our wellwishers came from Delhi to spirit up Holy with us. My elder brother's friend who recently married and his beautiful wife, I should say like that beacuse her smile was very attractive, gave us a lot of joy during that period.

There was a big exhibition going on near to our Villa. All went to see that except me and my brothers friend. He was sleeping there inside my brother's room and I was waiting for my friend Sapna to visit me. She came after 30 minutes and we played some scribbles. She suggest Hide and seek can be the next game. I got the chance to hide first.

I want to be the winner always. So I went inside my borthers room to hide. A small idea went through my head, " hide under his cotton wool, she can never find"

I went near to him, without making noise, laid there covering with his Wool cloth so that Sapna can never find me there. Minutes after, I hear sound of foot steps seeking me everywhere.

Immediately that happened. He hug me from behind and took me close to his body. I felt the warmth of his body. I didnt cry beacuse it may let sapna find me. This actually made him more courage and his hands started scrolling all over. My skirt and top was nowhere in position. The hands played a beautiful lullaby and I was slowly enjoying the song. He smelled me back in my ears and said some erotica to me.I was hearing such thngs for the first time in my life.

The moment I felt muscular axe, jumped away from the bed and came out of the room.I saw sapna staring at me. I actually forget to take my skirt from there.

She was very curious, and asked what happened there. I smiled and said to her, now you "Hide" there.

LAST NIGHT OF ACTION

2009-11-22T09:59:00.000-08:00

I appreciate and thank all bloggers who gave me some suggestions in the current crisis. The decision is to seperate our friendship forever as per mutual agreement.The decision was much painful, but I want to lead a good family life with a husband, three or more children like that. When I said my decision, she cried a lot. I sat with her, consoling on her arms. Every drop fell down look like a big ocean of love.I murmered in her ears, today the last day and will be an unforgettable one.

Pin drop silence emerged after heavy rain and storm on bed. I gave full attention to make her happy in all my moves.We were becoming one. Her storm of passion took me to the wild plains of pleasure. There was no pain on the road to heaven.

I left the hostel room early morning without waking her. Before leaving, I took good video of those beauty curves in my mobile. ( I swear, didn't copy her face) May be I can enjoy her in my loneliness....

HOW TO STAY AWAY FROM A LESB ?

2009-11-18T11:16:00.000-08:00

Lesb**n feelings was totally unknown to me till I had my first experience. It was in November 2007, in my college hostel, due to annual maintenance some of the girls were shifted to some senior’s rooms temporarily. A new mate welcomed me with an excellent smile to her room. No hesitation for me in accepting that offer because that senior college mate was considered as a genius.

The first two days went quite nicely. She was very helpful especially in studies. I felt much relief in getting a good guide for me. On the third day I noticed that the lock of our attached bathroom found to be removed. But that doesn’t make me worry because only we two girls in the room and under tight security of Hostel warden, even the smell of boys cannot reach the premise.

In a cold night, while sleeping, she came near to me and asked some space under my imported woollen cover. I gave her space on my bed and some time after entered in deep sleep. I jumped up in the midnight feeling that something crawling near my thighs. I didn’t find anything there in the yellow night lamp.

She also woke up and hugs me and said to sleep. I was slowly lying on her hands and suddenly she murmured in ears" you are very beautiful'. I felt her hands in the same place where something crawled few minutes back. I was bending more down, when her fingers draw something there.

Early morning she came to bath with me. Both of us were in “Birthday Suite" I felt something new sparkling in her eyes. Some weeks went like that. Every night I felt as something new was happening.

Neena, and her mummy are my best friend and I discussed this matter with her mummy. She said some dangerous aspects behind such a relation. After hearing all those, a fear gripped me. What will happen, if I marry a man? Will she resist? Can I lead a good married life?

Neena and I went to her cousin, who is a psychologist. She gave me some tips to escape from this and it worked out very successfully. I am not able to explain this here in my blog post. But, if somebody wants a real advice then I will share it through my email. Guys…… Please excuse me. This post is only for Girls

MY MARRIAGE THOUGHTS

2009-11-17T06:18:00.000-08:00

Three rings of marriage: The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering
In California, there's a 6-month waiting period for filing for divorce, but only a 15-day waiting period for buying a handgun. It's nice to know the government is giving us advice on how to work out our problems
Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other fellow has, you wish you had ordered that
Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who comes between them
Marriage is a condition where no wife gets what she expected, and no husband expected what he was getting
Marriage is a book in which the first chapter is written in poetry and the rest of the pages is prose
Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener
Marriage is the only war where we sleep with an enemy
The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret
Married life is frustrating. The first year of marriage, the man speaks And the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is
A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished

MY DIARY IS NOT A FICTION, ITS MY PERSONAL BEATS

2009-11-11T10:29:00.000-08:00

I like to say thanks to all my distinguished readers. Some send email to me regarding my writing and some others wrote as a comment here. I love to hear more from you, whether it is a criticism or applause, I am ready to accept it. But never think that this is mere fiction. No, it can never be a fiction. I am trying to spread a good message through each and every post in this blog.

I am weak in English grammar. This is why I say, English teachers must not be handsome. If they are, then student will be so weak in grammar. Grammar classes were swallowed by that cool, muscular handsome, teacher, Sorry to comment like this, but it is true.

I didn’t mean to hurt anyone through my posts. My apologies in advance, if someone get irritated by the incidents.

VISIT TO PLEASURE

2009-11-07T04:54:00.000-08:00

Yesterday I had a visit to my Aunty's house. The most funniest thing is that, the name of Villa is " Pleasure ''. Interesting isn't it? I asked her,

" Aunty, Do u get real pleasure from here"?

I asked that question just to tease her. But with a great small smile, she defenced herself and said, " Yes"

"OOps, thats a big lie", I was not going to leave her like that

She then took me to nook and corner of that house. Eventhough I visited that place before many times, I felt something different. Actually I am a regular visitor from the 25th marriage anniversary celebration of that sweet couple. Two years back, Uncle died in a massive heart attack.

While showing each room in that Villa, Auntys eyes glowed whenever she said a glorious incident happened in that room. I myself felt shy when she explained the sweet memories of their Honeymoon.

Do we get similar experience in our life? I thought about that for a while. Is their attachment is true?

What was the basic element that bind them so strong?

Atlast I found the fundamental thread between their relationship. That was nothing but a successfull married life, I mean, a dedicated bed life.

I was noticing the Khajuraho paintings in the bedroom for the first time. The painting and some coolness in the master bedroom...No chance for any couple to fight inside that room.

Aunty showed uncles collection of "mood elevators", as she say. I was surprised seeing those magazines, Cd collections etc.

When I was going back to home, mind was like a stormy sea. The blue rays over the sea said,, hooy,, this is life, enjoy before it melts

CHEMISTRY OF GIRLS

2009-11-06T04:21:00.000-08:00

CHEMISTRY OF GIRLS

SYMBOL- MISS

ATOMIC WEIGHT HIGHLY VARIABLE

ATOMIC NUMBER 420

PHYSICAL PROPERTIES

1 BOILS VERY RAPIDLY

2 FREEZE VERY QUICKLY

3 MELTS QUICKLY ON RECEIVING GIFTS

CHEMICAL PROPERTIES

1 VERY ACTIVE AND HIGHLY REACTIVE

2 POSSES GREAT AFFINITY FOR GOLD, SILVER & OTHER COSTLY ITEMS

3 VIOLENT REACTIONS IF MADE TO WAIT & LEFT ALONE

4 TURNS RED WHEN PLACED BESIDES BETTER LOOKING SPECIMEN OF

SAME SPECIES

OTHER PROPERTIES

1 STAINED OR OVER-STAINED WITH POWDER, LIPSTICK & ALL OTHER

COSMETICS

2 NEVER AGES BEYOND SWEET 16

3 CRIES INSTANTANEOUSLY

USES

1 A FAST MEDIUM OF SPREADING TOP SECRETS

2 BEST INCOME OR POCKET MONEY REDUCING AGENT

CAUTION

1 HIGHLY EXPLOSIVE

2 HANDLE WITH CARE & AT UR OWN RISK

WHO WAS THERE BEHIND THE CURTAIN

2009-11-05T12:12:00.000-08:00

At first I thought not to share this experience with you. But my aim is to educate some people who doesn't know how to love and care women.

The night before the FAREWELL PARTY, near to stage , we were preparing for the party next day. The entire gang consisted of 23 girls and 8 boys. Several paintings were hanged in allw alls, balloons, funny items etc were arranged all over the stage. Many of us were working so hard for the past few days. Almost all arrangemenst were made. The college principal also came and inspected everything and left the place.

I went to the Greenroom to change my dress. The moment I close the door, lights went off. There was darkness everywhere because nobody expected this at this late night. The alternative generator was quite far away and it will take another 15 minutes to make it ready.

Immediately that happened.

One hand covered my mouth and another three hands clinched me from rear and front. I was shocked with this sudden act.I felt fear and hatred with this act. Some one was murmering near to my ear, that you are very beautiful. Everything finished when i start biting one of that ugly hands. The culprits disappeared before I scream loudly. Later, I found my skirt back from the floor when the, lights came back.

I felt this as a great insult to me. I didnt complain to the authorities just because that it will defame me only.

I felt very sad, more than that my anger was pouring out as drops.

Why I write it here, because Im sure those culprits will read this because they are following me for last 3 years. I pity on them. If they approach me directly, may be I would select one of them to share my love. Now, they lost the chance. Not only they, may be all men in this world.

WAS THAT MY FIRST LOVE?

2009-11-05T06:44:00.000-08:00

I was in seventh standard and a very immature and tender age in emotional also. I was not very clear about the feelings of love or sex. I had never experienced love with any boy.In school, we play with them, crack jokes and any feeling of love or sex came in my mind during that time.

I felt something different when I had a small project work with our new Science teacher who recently joined. He was muscular, with nice cute face. I have seen him several times but, that was a special occassion when i felt something different about him. He was a clear example of how personality attracts others. Sensational feeling on me... I always wanted to come in his favorite's lists. I felt bad when he talks to others particularly girls.I was becoming more mad at him
Was this love? I am still not sure. But when Mr X came to my teenage life during those days, the affection to my teacher went down. It was really, Mr x who taught me the difference of love, sex and affection. But I ask myslef several times that , was that my first love?

SLEEPLESS NIGHTS

2009-11-05T06:11:00.000-08:00

have you ever think about the first day you received your first kiss? I wonder how I received it on my lips. ( I was very orthodox about relations) May be the hormonal play..or the gift of GOD? I wondered how the nose bend themsleves when a boy kiss a girl. The wonder end when Mr X was with me , there in that room. I still remember,. it was raining outside, the breeze ,,eventhough cool but felt very hot for me. When he spelt the word kiss on my ears , the softness felt till it ends. Nice experince, what do u say? share with me

MY FIRST ROMANCE

2009-10-28T07:37:00.000-07:00

Romance is a beautiful feeling especially in the teenage. What i should say about my romance?The moment Mr X touch my hand, hug and whispered in my ears.."you are very beautiful..". The huge adrenaline rush..each and every part of body thrilled to say something.. I tried to gallop away from him. But the muscular body melted my resistance and the first kiss..on my lips. My aunty used to say " Roma, you look like a grown up girl" I didnt understand what she exactly mean, till Mr X wrote the meaning of those lines in my body.I was just crossed my 14th birthday on the day before.

WHY PEOPLE KILL THEMSELVES?

2009-10-28T06:51:00.000-07:00

I am quite surprised by the fact that people are killing themselves by the name of GOD, RELEGION, LANGUAGE or some other reasons. Where we can find extreme happiness and peace? No way to know. Im still waiting for a world where the houses have no locks, no boundaries, no lies, no crimes and no clothes even...

LIVING IN A BUSINESS WORLD

2009-09-28T06:54:00.000-07:00

What is business, sometimes I think that, this is absolutely an irritating term because of its shadow called profit. How a business make profit? Simply by cheating others or the clients. I will explain how? If u want profit more, then you had to sell your product at a price that is far away from your real cost. Now tell me, who will say that you have a direct vision if you are engaged in business? Yes, you always look to multiple ways of cheating others. Now, I need a world without business. I need everything based on service

April Fool's Day

2009-09-02T08:21:00.000-07:00

April Fool’s Day originates from Germany. It is believed to be the brain child of Gabriel Hoffman who lived in Damstadt during the 1860’s. The day is celebrated in many countries with the execution of elaborate practical jokes on unsuspecting victims. April 1st is the accepted date for April Fool’s Day when both simple and very sophisticated jokes are known to catch out the unwary or the gullible.There is evidence of a similar day in the Gregorian calendar of 1582 and even as far back as ancient Rome when the practice would have been observed on New Years Day. Originally April Fool’s Day jokes typically would have involved sending a person on a ridiculous errand. A builders merchant might send an apprentice to obtain some sky hooks or a long wait ( weight ) and embarrass them after a period of time with the utterance of the words April Fool.It is tradition for the jokes or pranks to end by noon. Carrying out an April Fool’s Day joke on someone after this time is said to bring bad luck. Over the years there have been some very elaborate hoaxes even by large TV corporations. The BBC managed to convince its audience in 1957 that Swiss farmers were enjoying a bumper spaghetti crop. They showed footage of spaghetti growing on trees and were inundated with calls from the general public asking for advice on growing spaghetti. The BBC even had the audacity to suggest placing a sprig of spaghetti in a tin of tomato sauce to assist its growth.April 1st is not an officially recognised holiday or event but it is practised regularly in the UK. Prince Charles has been reported to have enjoyed April 1st when until as recently as 2003 he would cause havoc at Buckingham Palace where his favourite trick was to place a whoopee cushion under the bottoms of Royalty, including his mothers – Queen Elizabeth!There have been many hoaxes and some famous mistakes by media corporations in reporting stories in error. There are also several April Fool’s Day spoofs on the internet. Sometimes these seemingly innocent pranks can cause financial damage or panic when things are taken too far.In Birmingham on April 1st 1986, a group of students became convinced that the Black plague had returned to the city. Such was the level of confusion and clever manipulation of a drama class and its students, that hospitals in the city were put on full alert and 900 students were sent home by the governor. The full scale of the hoax was not revealed until the following day when embarrassed school committee members faced the media and issued an apology to parents.In 2001 Birmingham Council became embroiled in an April Fool’s Day conspiracy involving Pebble Mill on the Bristol Road. They received what they thought was official notification from the BBC of severe structural damage to the BBC building, caused they were informed by a severe earth tremor. The council acted swiftly and informed the BBC that it had secured space in the Mailbox for all of the BBC staff and studio teams. This particular hoax was only discovered on the day of the move when Birmingham County Council received a fax message which simply read ‘ April Fools’ and was accompanied by a fax message of the original notification. Michael Johnson, Assistant Director was questioned by Channel 4 in an embarrassing fiasco where Johnson looked bewildered and confused and clearly had no knowledge of events leading to the change of location of the BBC headquarters in Birmingham.April Fool’s Day is illegal in the Peoples Republic of China, Venezuela, Trinidad and Tobago, Alaska, Cuba and Bolivia.http://www.birminghamuk.com
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From Birmingham UK Com. Everyone welcome. Drop by sometime soon.

5 Ways To Tell If A Preschooler Is Living In Your House

2009-09-02T08:15:00.000-07:00

1. You reheated the same cup of coffee three times this morning.2. There is always one more person in your bed in the morning, than there was the night before.3. You can’t imagine life without the Cartoon Network.4. The lock on your bathroom door is purely for decoration…After all, no locked door could withstand, “Mom? What are you doing? Mom? Can I come in? Mom? Can I show you something? Mom? Can I give you a hug? Mom? Can you hear me? Mom?5. You have started—or signed—a petition to banish the word “why” from every language known to man.
About the Author
Deborah Shelton is a mother, freelance writer, and author of the brand new book, "The Five Minute Parent: Fun & Fast Activities for You and Your Little Ones." Visit Deborah's website for more family-friendly ideas: http://www.fiveminuteparent.com

Being Sensitive and Kind

2009-08-02T08:24:00.000-07:00

I am very caring and sensitive. I think this is in part down to my tough upbringing. I worked on a cabbage farm since I was eight years old. My father was a dour and God fearing Evangalist who married a one armed Yugoslavian peasant from Skopje. She never spoke a word of English and still doesn't. My father moved on in the late 1980's having eloped with a Tibetan Monk. I never heard from them again but I escaped from the cabbages. I was an only child until my mother re married again and I now have 4 step sisters and 3 step brothers.I washed cars in the biting winds of the North East coast to earn money for the family and despite looking after my mother and her young siblings I was thrown out of house and home at the age of 18. I moved to London and was going to sleep rough. Since then I have encountered nothing but kindness. I remember my first day in the capital. It was just after Halloween in 1987 and I found this old pumpkin which I wanted to slice up into pieces so I borrowed a meat cleaver I found at the back of the Chinese Restaurant and as I was returning to the rubbish skip for the pumpkin I bumped into a man who looked at me without saying a word and handed me the total contents of his wallet. Can you believe it. I am sure that meat cleaver was lucky.With this kind donation I checked into a hotel. What luxury. I had never been in a hotel before. They had this thing called a bidet with fresh water pouring out of it that you could drink from.On the second night I was in the lobby trying on some sun glasses that I never intended to buy and doing my best James Bond impression and watching my reflection off the shop window. I wondered if I could become an actor. Out of the blue a total stranger walks up to me and in perfect Slav he hands me a suitcase, shakes my hand and thanks me for all my work for the motherland. I thanked him also and praised the motherland profusely. I felt so good and warm that someone appreciated me and I never had the heart to tell this person that I didn't know what he meant. So uncanny that he should speak in a language I understood so well. It was almost as if he had singled me out from amongst the crowd.Can you imagine my shock when I later opened the suitcase and found over a million dollars inside it, all in one hundred dollar bills. I was overwhelmed. The world is full of such caring and sensitive people. I cried with gratitude. It was meant for me after all. I must have met my guardian Angel. In the morning I had a wonderful breakfast and contemplated my future. I would buy a house with a nice garden and open a Donkey Sanctuary. As I left the hotel that morning I was reminded how some people waste their time on the wrong things in life. I heard that two men had taken shots at each other and were arguing about money before being arrested by armed police and taken away. I think they were foreigners from some troubled country trying to purchase or sell arms. I am glad I at least kept to an honest way of life.So you see. With this kindness showered upon me and a sunny outlook on life I can only be happy, content and caring and sensitive. Life has smiled on me. I even won a huge lottery prize two weeks ago to extend my farm and help lots of animals. I suppose all I now need is a wife to make my life complete.
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From the website of www.birminghamuk.com

OMEGA 3-advantages

2009-07-02T07:03:00.000-07:00

Health advantages in taking omega3 capsules seemed to be endless. As essential fatty acids are being reduced, the more the body needs to take an omega3 supplements. Omega 3 capsules are very essential for this will help in ensuring that we are able to get the maximum amount of omega3 Essential Fatty acids (EFA). Fatty fish is the best source of these fatty acids but this is not quite safe since fatty fish has traces of mercury in it. That is why many people are now taking capsulated omega 3.
Maintaining the right amount of food that is known to be effective in fighting certain illness is being attached to the person's dietary and supplemental intakes of omega3 oils. Yet, in the changing environment we have and of the different lifestyle people choose, it is now more difficult to achieve those goals. In response to the ever growing deficiency on this area, many companies are making their own line of supplemental capsules.
There are three oils present in the omega3 capsules namely Alpha-Linolec Acid (ALA), Eicosapentaenoic Acid (EPA), and Docoshexaenoic Acid (DHA). The three oils are both vital nutrients in the functioning of our brain and cardiovascular system. Omega 3 pills have this combination but not all of this combination are said to be equally beneficial because of the conversion process that takes place in a very inefficient way.
Although a lot of advertising campaigns has been made on the omega3 capsules, there are still confusion on where to buy, how much dose to take and the validity of the capsule. Needles to say, the consumers are very much encouraged to research on the supplemental foods they eat since wrong choices could lead to serious illnesses. One way to check the validity of the capsule you are taking is through omegadaily.com. Make sure that the product is guaranteed.
Like the omega3 pills, the omega3 capsules have the ability to prevent lower the cholesterol level and the blood pressure of the body. Omega 3 also has the pride with its no-side-effects stuff, makes it more appealing to the people.
There are some claims that the recommended dose is 3 or 4 capsules daily. People who are under medication should see their doctors first to ensure that there will be no complications in the end. But for people with sensitive stomach can start to have low dose of omega3 capsules. Pregnant women are also advised to augment their intake of omega3 in their diet.
There are a lot of over the counter products in line with this omega3 capsules. Kids will not just have an enjoyable life now but through the rest of their lives. Prevention is still better than cure. In the fast phase of our lives today, taking necessary capsules in our diet foods will not hurt a bit. This is not a luxury but a need in our body. How good can one get if he can stop Alzheimer's disease and other health problems with just a capsule? How? Search for omega 3 capsules advantages for yourself.
Kelly is an advocate for living a healthy lifestyle including taking Omega-3 fatty acid supplements. For more information on the top fish oil supplements please visit her site today.http://www.threefishoil.com/By Kelly Rinaldo
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FUNNY WOMEN

2009-05-28T06:58:00.000-07:00

My friend use to say that WOMEN ARE VERY DANGEROUS. Once we ask him to prove. We were sitting in physics laboratory, he took a magnet and said : What is the difference between a woman and a magnet?
Magnets have a positive side but in women can never find a positive side

Is this true? Tell me